A note from our Agency today...

You are getting so close to a referral so hopefully I’ll be able to call you soon! We did receive a good number of referrals this month so that was very encouraging to see some movement.

Like sands through the hour glass...

It is getting to the nail biting, clock ticking, sand dribbling moments around here. SURELY our time is coming closer. Today, we found out that there were 14 referrals given out last week. 14! 14! Okay, there was absolutely NO indication whether these were infants, toddlers, sibling groups or what. That is where the mystery lies. The last news we were given was that there were less than 15 families ahead of us. I am assuming that means infant referrals since our sw indicated that they were already jumping ahead of us to give out older children referrals. So, there is no way of knowing exactly how many infant referrals were given out last week. Unfortunately, the agency does not believe in being specific AT ALL. So..this means waiting. Gee...waiting. What a thought. Oh sure..I will just wait. no problem :). I never thought of that. Whew. That is all I have to do.
I will have to say that there was some victory today. I mean, I did not check the agency website for the update as soon as I woke up this morning. And I did not check it 10 minutes after that or 10 minutes after that, or an hour later, etc. I actually FORGOT to check it this morning. I consider that somewhat of success. I have been slightly obsessive about checking it every Monday morning. ..just slightly. If the laptop is conveniently located at my bedside, I barely open my eyes to pull it close to check for the update...never mind that the office isn't even open for business yet. That doesnt cross my mind until AFTER I have checked it a couple of times. Then I usually try to hold myself off until atleast 9am. usually no news. So, I wait until 10 and check it again..and then 10:20, 10:30, 11. Usually by 11am, it has been posted. But today, I didnt even check it until 4 pm! Do you see the victory here?!!! I had actually prayed last week that I would let it go. That I would not be so obsessed with counting the numbers and trying to guesstimate the possible week or even day that we might get the phone call. I waited until 4pm! Please, please hold the applause. Save it up. I am believing for even better news to come.
Continue to be praying for the Ethiopian govt to be blessed by the adoption agencies that are working in ET right now. There have apparently been some mishaps (details unknown) of families getting through half the adoption and then pulling out. This has created a new policy that was put into place last week that will require us to travel TWICE before picking up our little girl. This was not sweet news to my ears. But as my wise husband announced, "Hon, we are still getting our little girl. So what if we are traveling twice to get her. We are still going to bring her home!" Wise wise words. My worries fled. We are just praying that the country will not shut down or create more difficulties for families in the adoption process.

Referral Update

Our agency posted the latest hotline update from last week. Only ONE referral was given out last week. I promptly sent an email to our sw who replied quickly and said she has no real answers as to the reasons for the slow progress. She confirmed that there are less than 15 families ahead of us. This is NOT the number that I had been configuring. As a matter of fact, I was convinced it was less than 10. But the reason is because, as the sw also confirmed, that they have gone out of order to other families past our date because they had requested older children. So...if it they continue to give ONE referral per week, then we could be looking at a good THREE MORE MONTHS. This just makes me get on my knees harder. Whatever the circumstances are that are surrounding our little girl are of utmost importance. I dont know what is going on with her...her birth, her mother, her safety, her care. My prayers are that the Lord hastily put a protective shield around her. That He send a host of angels to comfort her. Aaaagh...my heart is aching, my throat is hurting. May the Lord bring her to us soon.

The Hard Truth about conditions for Women in Ethiopia

I am part of several blog groups that discuss and support Ethiopian adoption. I just ran across a blog article that describes some of the hard truths that surround so much of the difficult lives that women face in Ethiopia. I have read some of these in the past, but it was good to get a refresher to remind myself of some more areas to pray for when I lift up that precious country. If you want to read the full article, click here. I am including a brief clip of the truths below which describe some of the very reasons that women in Ethiopia are currently using sticks to abort babies. It is a sad truth this is rampant across the area. These beautiful women, some very young girls are faced with horrors that we can't really imagine.

Poverty

The statistics – and the realities of life in much of Ethiopia – are harsh. Over 85% of Ethiopian women live in rural areas where poor families are primarily engaged in subsistence agriculture. Over 65% of the population of 75 million people live below the poverty level. One in five children will not live to see their fifth birthday. Life expectancy is not quite 55 years. Nearly half of the population is undernourished and famine is a recurring problem.

Illiteracy

Ethiopia has among the worst rates of school enrollment for girls in Africa. The literacy rate for girls and women in Ethiopia is just 35%. When girls and women have access to education and are able to read, their status and the wellbeing of their families improves significantly.

Violence against women

In Ethiopia, almost 60 percent of women have been subjected to sexual violence including rape. Abortion is linked to violence, as approximately 25% of women seeking an abortion are pregnant as a result of rape. Ethiopian women face further violence in the form of early and forced marriage or marriage by abduction. Although it is hard to believe, an estimated 72% of women are married by abduction, a practice that often involves rape. According to one study, 85% of women believe their husbands have the right to beat them if they burn food, refuse sex, or go somewhere without their husband’s consent.

The Hotline update...for the week of Feb 8-12

The weekly program hotline is intended to provide a brief overview of recent referral activity, travel and other news in the Ethiopia program. Referral and travel activity that directly affects you will not be posted here until you have been notified. Please remember to contact your Ethiopia specialist for more information specific to your adoption process.
• 1 child was referred to 1 family
• 4 children/3 families passed through court
• 0 children/0 families court dates were postponed
• 6 families arrived in Ethiopia to complete their child's US immigrant visa process for 10 children.

• CHSFS confirms that several families have assigned court dates through February 18.
• We estimate that the wait for referral for children newborn to 24 months of age may now be approximately 16 - 24 months. The referral wait time for children over two years old may now be approximately 3 - 15 months.
• Families more flexible with regard to age, gender, number of children and known medical issues can expect a wait toward the shorter end of this range.
• The future wait time for either an older child or a sibling referral remains difficult to predict.
• Families most recently matched with a child under 12 months of age with few known health concerns began their wait in July 2008.
• Please note that there is no wait for referral when adopting through our Waiting International Children (WIC) program.
• The current wait from referral acceptance to travel has ranged between 4-6 months, with several variables unique to some cases impacting that timing.

SO, WHAT DOES ALL THIS MEAN????!!!
Hanging in there! So, now there is apparently less than 9 families ahead of us. woop woop! In the meantime, I MUST add a picture of what is currently going on our lives other than adoption waiting. It is SNOW!!!



We are thrilled. I have to say that though, that I am not opposed to the kids having school every now and then despite the white stuff. We are getting super crazy creative around here to keep it interesting. Today, it is rubberband guitars and homemade wholegrain pancakes. This is just breakfast, folks. I will have to keep you posted about the rest of our day!!

less than 10 families ahead of us!!

Okay, since my last post, I have been keeping close tabs on the referrals going out weekly to families. To date, there have been 15 referrals sent out since the last post. That means that we are down to 10 families or less ahead of us!!! It has been interesting to see the progress...slow as it is, but it is a sure indication that the Lord is making sure we get the right little girl for us. Two weeks ago, there were 10 referrals given out which had knocked us down to 10, but last week, there were 0 referrals. What a huge disappointment. So, back to waiting patiently, which as I tell my little one, "that is waiting with a smile on your face!". I am trying super hard to not concentrate on the "is today the day?, could it be?, I can't imagine!!, what am I going to be doing when we get the call?, what if I am in the car and not near my computer?!!". All of those questions may seem silly but they are totally comforting and yet super time consumers when you are THIS close.
My heart is thrilled though to still be hearing of more and more families adopting in our area. My prayer is that more and more families will capture the vision that these precious children, whether here, there, or anywhere, need loving families to take them in and love on them. We are not here on this earth to simply live life to the fullest and get all we can get out of it. We are not here to partake of every life opportunity so that we can say "We did it!". Nope...we are here to bless, to serve, to love, to grow, to help, to disciple, and to care. It is so easy to think about ourselves, how we are being neglected, how we are being deprived of this and that. BUT spend 10 minutes..no just 3 or 4 looking at the lives of children who are being held in orpanages all over the world who may not even get one meal a day, whose clothes (if any) are ripped and dirty, whose feet are not clothed with warm fuzzy socks or right sized shoe, whose arms need someone to wrap around, whose hearts are waiting for their opportunity to live in a forever family. Then, then...hearts might change, but only if they are willing to accept the responsibility that comes with an open, loving, giving, caring heart. Some of us might even feel a little empathy towards such a vast number precious children, but not the calling. Okay, then what? Just turn a blind eye? NO, my prayer is that those that are willing but maybe not called to adopt, will atleast search the possibility of helping in some small way other than lending a nice comment here and there. That may be simply sponsoring a child through an organization like World Vision or Compassion International. Or perhaps traveling across the globe to help build a well or shelter for orphans. Would it be possible to visit the local shelter downtown or soup kitchen and serve to families who have no home? I shall step down from my soap box. I know the Lord is doing amazing things in the hearts of His people. I heard just recently a quote from John Piper that I shall bless you with, "The U.S. Census Bureau predicts that by 2042 (32 years from now) minorities will make up more than 50% of the population. We do not look with alarm or threat on this. This is the way heaven will be. “You were slain [Lord Jesus], and by your blood you ransomed people for God from every tribe and language and people and nation” (Revelation 5:9). "

2 more months..perhaps

We are in the middle of updating our homestudy. It has been 2 years since we started the process and it is time to go through all the hodge podge of paper work again. It is not as detailed but still tedious and time consuming. There is nothing fast about getting five family members physicals with specific qualifications needed on the paperwork. Especially during school and with an office who isn't very comfortable drawing blood from children. So, then, there is the trip to the hospital lab where they are super pros. But first, you have to check the kids out of school again and on a different day because the two other two hour doctor visits in the office took up all your free time. I am not complaining. Doing all of this is worth it. It is. Today, we had to trek across town to the sheriff's office to apply to get police clearance letters. We will pick them up on Friday when they are ready. Liam got a cool sheriff's badge, of which he was proud to wear all day! After that, we traveled down to Spring Hill to get our FBI, TBI fingerprinting done. This is NOT the same as the immigration fingerprints which are done in downtown Nashville. NOPE. same fingers, just different prints. go figure. :).
We are almost done with some of the other items on our checklist. We need to get a carbon monoxide detector...and get the kiddos to write a letter about how they feel about getting a new sister. We need to make tax paper copies and insurance copies and oh...drive across town to pick up our lab results from the doctor's office. It seems to be a lot of running around and honestly, it seems like nothing is getting done because you know what? ...our little girl isnt here yet. BUT boy...she is worth it. My prayers are nonstop. I am praying for her safety and health. I pray for blessings over her mom. I pray for her care at the orphanage. I dont even know if she is born yet. But...I have a feeling she is. Something very strong in November came across me. I could be very wrong. I chalk it up to mother's intuition. We will see :). In the meantime, we wait. trying to wait with patience and fewer tears and more faith. Today we got an email from our social worker. She offered words of encouragement and a hint that we are about 2 months away from a referral...for REAL. She gave no definite numbers but indicated strongly that there are fewer than 25 families ahead of us. Considering that there are currently over 425 families signed up with this agency, we are pretty high on the charts. I cant believe it.
I would love to hear from you if you are keeping up with our news. I love the support that we have been getting from everyone. It has certainly been a God-send. It has been a long 2 years which was reportedly only supposed to be 6-9 months. We appreciate every word of hope and support, every prayer lifted up on behalf of our sweet little girl. Blessings to you!